Love Life, and Life Loves You Back

Live your life with love and compassion, and life will love you back.

If there’s one thing I keep hearing in conversations with people I care about, it’s how challenging it can be to feel aligned with life.

I’ve spent years wrestling with the things that happened to me. I couldn’t fully accept them. I was constantly trying to break free from the pain, the patterns, the silence. And while I don’t regret fighting for change, I’ve started to understand that some battles aren’t meant to be won; they’re meant to be softened, understood, and eventually released.

We often begin this journey toward “a better life” with good intentions. But somewhere along the way, we forget to stop fighting. We start to conquer life instead of living it. We tell ourselves, “Once I achieve this, then I’ll rest. Once I fix that, then I’ll be happy.” So we keep pushing, chasing, grinding. The hunger for victory grows louder, and rest becomes a luxury we believe we haven’t earned.

And sure, the chase can be exciting. Sometimes, we win and feel proud. Other times, we lose and feel empathy. We pause, question everything, and gear up to fight again. Some people rise gloriously, while others feel drained, uncertain, or lost in the process. To me, those quiet, disoriented moments, when we forget what we’re even striving for, can be the hardest part of life.

Have you ever stopped to ask your life what it wants?

Not what you want from it, but what it wants from you?

Have you ever sat quietly and asked: Do I need to keep comparing myself? Do I always need to be chasing something? Or do I just need to breathe, notice the sky, pet my dog, enjoy a warm meal, and take a break from all the noise?

Have you asked if maybe your life just wants time?

Time to rest. To recover. To grieve. To heal.

Time to feel whole again before you head back out into the world with strength and clarity.

I hadn’t done that. Not really.

After my marriage ended, I dove straight into searching for connection, affection, and attention. But I didn’t even know what I was truly looking for. I didn’t have a clear sense of what I wanted or what I stood for. I’ve always admired people who know exactly who they are, and yet… I hadn’t taken the time to know myself or formed my own.

Instead of sitting with my thoughts, I looked to others for comfort.

Instead of finding direction, I filled my calendar with walks, workouts, hikes, appointments, and dates. The busyness kept me afloat and made me feel important again. But underneath the productivity was a quiet ache. I was trying to erase the loneliness I had felt for the past few years, to get myself back. And while it felt good to be needed, it also became overwhelming.

I stretched myself thin; too many plans, too little time for myself, family and Joey. Even getting dressed felt performative sometimes. I was showing up for the world but not always for myself. Slowly, I began to sense I was moving in the wrong direction.

I had rushed because I feared running out of time in my 30s.

I rushed through dates, hoping someone would just fit.

I tried to force pieces into a jigsaw that didn’t match.

They weren’t bad people. They just weren’t mine.

Still, no regret. Every experience gave me something.

And now, it’s time to rebuild with more intention.

I’ve given myself room to explore, and that freedom mattered for the last couple of months. But now, I want to align my actions with my true priorities: building the career I’ve dreamed about, growing my professional network, creating wealth and stability, and, most importantly, reclaiming full independence.

This time, not just emotionally. But practically, holistically, and with love.

Because the truth is: life is short. Too short to waste on surface-level thrills or temporary highs. The goal isn’t just to feel a spark; it’s to build something steady and strong. Something rooted in love, compassion, confidence, resilience. That’s what creates lasting peace.

And after everything, I’ve finally had a quiet, honest talk with my life.

It didn’t ask for perfection. It didn’t demand more.

It simply said:

Live your life with love and compassion, and life will love you back.